Love
"My daughter, in her criminolgy course, is now studing Psychology. I picked up her book and was flipping through it when I came on a chapter on emotions, in particular, love. I found it fascinating. A Robert Steinberg, proposes a three component theory of love.
Intimacy is "those feelings in a relationship that promote closeness, bondedness, and connedtedness."
Passion refers to those drives in a loving relationship "that lead to romance, physuical attraction, and sexual consummation."
Commitment consists of 2 aspects, a short term one "the decision that one person loves another and a long term one " the commitment the person makes to maintaining that love over time."
He then goes on to suggest that these 3 components can be combined in various ways to form different kinds of love. These are:
Liking - has only one component, intimacy.
Empty love - you feel commitment to the relationship but intimacy and passion are no longer present.
Infatuated love - strong passion with little intimacy and weak commitment.
Romantic love - strong passion and great intimacy with weak commitment.
Fatuous love - has passion and commitment but lacks intimacy.
Companionate love - high intimacy and commitment with little passion.
Consumate love - the only type with all three components in great intensity.
This helps explain my relationship, but makes me sad. Where does yours fit in?" I whisper.
Are you listening?
1 Comments:
You are right - I did enjoy that one...but in a way it makes me sad too - now I have a name for what my relationship is, or is not...
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